{"id":182815,"date":"2023-01-10T18:06:04","date_gmt":"2023-01-10T18:06:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/anna-kendrick-blamed-herself-for-past-abusive-relationship\/"},"modified":"2023-01-10T18:06:04","modified_gmt":"2023-01-10T18:06:04","slug":"anna-kendrick-blamed-herself-for-past-abusive-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/anna-kendrick-blamed-herself-for-past-abusive-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Anna Kendrick Blamed Herself For Past Abusive Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Anna Kendrick is opening up about a past abusive relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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Anna, 37, has previously discussed her experience with \u201cemotional abuse and psychological abuse,\u201d telling People last year that she felt the 2022 movie Alice, Darling \u2014<\/i> in which she played a character stuck in an abusive relationship \u2014 \u201cresonated\u201d with her own experience.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cI was coming out of a personal experience with abuse and psychological abuse,\u201d she said as she recalled the moment she first came across the script. \u201cI think my rep sent it to me, because he knew what I’d been dealing with and sent it along. Because he was like, ‘This sort of speaks to everything that you’ve been talking to me about.’\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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Now, sitting down with Dax Shepard and Monica Padman for a conversation on the Armchair Expert<\/i> podcast, Anna has opened up further about the past relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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Detailing that she’d spent six years with her partner, Anna began by saying that \u201cfor all intents and purposes,\u201d he was her \u201chusband.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cI was with someone \u2014 this was somebody I lived with, for all intents and purposes my husband,\u201d she said.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cWe had embryos together, this was my person,\u201d she shared.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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However, Anna then divulged that roughly six years into their relationship, she felt a distinct personality shift from her partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cAbout six years in, about somewhere around there, I remember telling my brother, when things had first kind of gone down, ‘I’m living with a stranger. Like, I don’t know what’s happening,’\u201d she recalled.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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In an apparent attempt to make sense of his behavior, Anna revealed that she actually found herself wondering whether her partner had \u201ca brain tumor.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cMaybe he has a brain tumor, or maybe I have a brain tumor<\/i>. Then we can do something about it. There’s an answer<\/i>,\u201d she recalled thinking, adding that it gave her \u201ca moment of relief.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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Anna went on to reveal that the next year of her life of her attempting to work on her relationship while her partner remained hostile toward her, noting that whenever she attempted to discuss an incident between them, it would result in her \u201ccurled in a ball\u201d with him \u201cscreaming\u201d at her.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cIt was so alarming, and it was so much easier for me to assume I was crazy or I was doing something wrong,\u201d she said, adding that didn’t feel safe. \u201cI can’t bring up the fact that I’m scared of you, because when I do, you get really scary<\/i>,\u201d she recalled thinking.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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Anna noted that it was \u201chard\u201d for her to recognize that it was an abusive relationship because of how each partner shifted \u201covernight,\u201d revealing that he later told her that he had feelings for someone else.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cThis is unusual that this is six years of very happy, loving relationship and then an overnight shift,\u201d she said.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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Anna revealed that she continued to try and work on the relationship by taking up couples therapy, despite the continued behavior. Looking back on it now, she admitted she has \u201cso much shame about not leaving.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cIt wasn’t just the, ‘Oh, I’m losing the relationship.’ It was that I believed that if we broke up, or if he left, basically, it was a confirmation that it’s because I’m impossible,\u201d she said. \u201cI’m lucky that he’s even tolerating my bullshit.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cThere was an inherent thing of me being so rejectable that this person who loved me very deeply for six years, it suddenly occurred to him how awful I was or something,\u201d she continued. \u201cThe shame, that lingers much longer.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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Anna added that the abusive relationship \u201ctruly dismantled\u201d her life, before speaking about how she later managed to prioritize her mental well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cI did start going to Al-Anon while all this was going on. I mean, look, I truly dismantled my life, and at first, that was as a reaction to the accusation that I was crazy and I was the one causing the problem,\u201d she said. \u201cSo I had a conversation with CAA \u2014 my agency \u2014 and said I need to take time off, I have a mental health problem.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cI started seeing two therapists a week and I started trying to learn to meditate and I got into Al-Anon and all of these things ended up being very wonderful things for me in the long run, but initially went into them thinking, ‘Tell me how to stop being crazy. Tell me how to stop feeling anything,’\u201d she shared.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cTHIS ONE. Man, thank you all three of you for sharing your vulnerability with us. Made me feel so human,\u201d one person tweeted<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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\u201cThis conversation was phenomenal. So grateful to Anna for being so vulnerable,\u201d another said.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n

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For anonymous, confidential help with domestic abuse, you can call the 24\/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or chat with an advocate via the website.<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/article>\n