{"id":35329,"date":"2022-06-03T18:05:20","date_gmt":"2022-06-03T18:05:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/my-dad-never-wanted-me-to-be-one-of-those-gays-then-he-asked-me-to-put-him-in-drag\/"},"modified":"2022-06-03T18:05:20","modified_gmt":"2022-06-03T18:05:20","slug":"my-dad-never-wanted-me-to-be-one-of-those-gays-then-he-asked-me-to-put-him-in-drag","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/my-dad-never-wanted-me-to-be-one-of-those-gays-then-he-asked-me-to-put-him-in-drag\/","title":{"rendered":"My Dad Never Wanted Me To Be One Of &#8216;Those Gays.&#8217;  Then He Asked Me To Put Him In Drag."},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"\">\n<div class=\"cli cli-embed cli-embed--full-width js-no-inject\">\n<div class=\"js-react-hydrator\" data-component-name=\"YouTube\" data-component-id=\"2838\" data-component-props=\"{&quot;itemType&quot;:&quot;video&quot;,&quot;index&quot;:0,&quot;contentListType&quot;:&quot;embed&quot;,&quot;code&quot;:&quot;&lt;div style=&quot;left: 0; width: 100%; height: 0; position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%;&quot;&gt;&lt;iframe src=&quot;https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/App_eSCAB90?rel=0&amp;enablejsapi=1&quot; style=&quot;top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; position: absolute; border: 0;&quot; allowfullscreen scrolling=&quot;no&quot; allow=&quot;accelerometer; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture;&quot; id=&quot;youtube-embed-App_eSCAB90-2456&quot;&gt;&lt;\/iframe&gt;&lt;\/div&gt;&quot;,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;video&quot;,&quot;meta&quot;:{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=App_eSCAB90&quot;,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;video&quot;,&quot;version&quot;:&quot;1.0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;Putting My Southern Dad into Drag - Mary Lou Pearl&quot;,&quot;author&quot;:&quot;Mary Lou Pearl&quot;,&quot;author_url&quot;:&quot;https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UC3VlRu3FxAdTrViUV5mhtwA&quot;,&quot;provider_name&quot;:&quot;YouTube&quot;,&quot;description&quot;:&quot;My dad asked me to put him into drag queen makeup a couple of months ago. I made this video to document the occasion.nnGrowing up in Mississippi, my dad has shared that as a kid he had little, if any, exposure to out LGBTQ+ people. In the past, he\u2019s struggled to understand and accept me doing drag and expressing myself in a more genderqueer way. Then, one day he asked me if I\u2019d put him into drag on a trip back to Georgia. This was a *huge* step forward for us and our relationship.nnI hope this brightens your day. 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class=\"cli-embed__embed-wrapper\">\n<p><div class=\"ast-oembed-container\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Putting My Southern Dad into Drag - Mary Lou Pearl\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/App_eSCAB90?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cYou can play &#8216;dress up&#8217; or whatever, but why on earth would you post these photos on the internet?  People will think it&#8217;s weird! &#8221; <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>While this might sound like a parent chastising their young child who got ahold of their iPad, this was a line my dad uttered to me, a queer person in their late 20s at the time, while he was driving me to the airport to fly back to San Francisco after one of my regular trips to Georgia, where I grew up. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>I&#8217;d grown accustomed to these types of interrogations on my visits home, and just before I left and was trapped in the car for 45 minutes always seemed to be the best time for my parents to express their concern around how California had &#8220;changed&#8221; me and question where my life was headed.  During this particular episode, my dad was sharing his disdain around my newfound hobby: performing in drag clubs as Mary Lou Pearl. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>This exchange between us was in stark contrast to how my dad reacted when I first came out as gay over 10 years earlier.  For him &#8211; a physician from central Mississippi who has never lived outside the South, except for a brief stint in Oklahoma for his medical residency &#8211; sexual orientation was part of one&#8217;s genetic makeup.  When he realized I was gay, he assured me that although the road ahead would be tough, and my mom would struggle because of her religious convictions di lei, this is who I was, and he&#8217;d support me.  In the same breath, he cautioned me to not be one of \u201cthose gays,\u201d going on to add that I shouldn&#8217;t make anyone feel uncomfortable or throw my sexuality in their face by \u201cwearing women&#8217;s clothes or marching in the Pride parade. &#8221; <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>Well, you can probably guess how this turned out.  In fact, the heated conversation we were having in the car on that day was sparked by photos that surfaced of me and my then-partner doing drag in the San Francisco Pride parade. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<figure class=\"cli cli-image js-no-inject\">\n<div class=\"img-sized\"><picture><source type=\"image\/webp\" srcset=\"https:\/\/img.huffingtonpost.com\/asset\/62962a6226000091678a9a89.png?cache=SOa12oHPGc&amp;ops=crop_24_24_845_703%2Cscalefit_720_noupscale&amp;format=webp\"\/><\/picture><\/div>\n<div class=\"cli-image__source-wrapper\"><figcaption class=\"cli-image__caption caption-cli\">The author, right, with their father, Bobby.  Both of them are sporting Dad&#8217;s signature bow tie.<\/figcaption><div class=\"cli-image__credit\" aria-label=\"Image Credit: Courtesy of Blake Mitchell\">\n<p><span class=\"credit\">Courtesy of Blake Mitchell<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/figure>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>Even though my dad had a supportive stance around queer sexual orientation, I quickly learned that his understanding of gender-nonconforming behavior and queer gender identity was quite limited.  And, as such, he was afraid and critical of it.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>My dad grew up in a religious, conservative community where, by his own admission, there weren&#8217;t any openly LGBTQ + people.  Queerness was spoken about as something evil and of the devil.  It was something to be shunned and condemned, and if someone found themselves a \u201cvictim of same-sex attraction,\u201d as they&#8217;d referred to it, they better pray hard for God to save them. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>So, as you can imagine, when I called my parents last year to let them know I&#8217;d been vaccinated and was coming home to visit them, I was stunned to learn that my dad wanted me to bring home my drag makeup and put <em>him<\/em> into drag.  He even had a name picked out. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>This was a vast departure from our discussions about drag over the four preceding years.  Sure, I&#8217;d finally convinced my parents to come see me perform back in 2019, but it was clear that my dad was quite uncomfortable, and I suspected he&#8217;d mostly done it to appease my mom, who had done some strong lobbying behind the scenes to get him there.  When I asked him after the show what he thought and how he felt, he simply replied, \u201cWell, you either evolve, or you die,\u201d then shuffled to his Uber and back to his hotel room di lui. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>We&#8217;d moved beyond his outright condemnation of me doing drag, but rather than a peace agreement, it had felt much more like a ceasefire arrangement.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>&#8220;This goes beyond my limits of understanding, but I love you and know you to be a good person, and this seems to make you happy, so I&#8217;ll let it go,&#8221; he&#8217;d said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>We left it at that.  The next time I suggested my parents come to San Francisco to see me perform in a drag competition, my mom booked her flight and explained away why my dad wouldn&#8217;t be able to join. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<figure class=\"cli cli-image js-no-inject\">\n<div class=\"img-sized\"><picture><source type=\"image\/webp\" srcset=\"https:\/\/img.huffingtonpost.com\/asset\/62962cdd210000f41e5094c7.png?ops=scalefit_720_noupscale&amp;format=webp\"\/><img class=\"img-sized__img landscape\" loading=\"lazy\" alt=\"The author with their parents after a drag performance in Los Angeles.\" width=\"720\" height=\"534\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/img.huffingtonpost.com\/asset\/62962cdd210000f41e5094c7.png?resize=720%2C534&#038;ssl=1\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/picture><\/div>\n<div class=\"cli-image__source-wrapper\"><figcaption class=\"cli-image__caption caption-cli\">The author with their parents after a drag performance in Los Angeles.<\/figcaption><div class=\"cli-image__credit\" aria-label=\"Image Credit: Courtesy of Blake Mitchell\">\n<p><span class=\"credit\">Courtesy of Blake Mitchell<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/figure>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>On the trip home to put my dad in drag, I was an absolute bundle of nerves.  As we settled into the process of getting him ready, I asked what prompted him to want to get his makeup done this trip.  He quipped back, \u201cWell, I&#8217;d run out of things on my bucket list,\u201d and laughed about wanting to know what he&#8217;d have looked like as a saloon girl in the Wild West.  But deep down, I suspected that there must be more to his request than him. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>In digging into my dad&#8217;s negative response to me expressing myself in a queer way, I realized he had a lack of understanding around what it meant to do drag or express gender nonconformity versus being transgender or non-binary.  I also realized that his exposure of him to drag, trans and queer culture was extremely limited.  It became clear that his earlier comments by lui about me not being &#8220;that type of gay&#8221; stemmed from a fear of the unknown and a desire to protect his child from the hardship and ridicule he&#8217;d seen more queer-presenting people experience when they &#8216;d entered his exam room at the hospital.  His exposure di lui to positive examples of queer life were limited, and even then, he and my mom both watched many of the queer people around them be impacted by the AIDS epidemic in the &#8217;80s when he started practicing medicine. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>As time went on, largely without expressing it to me, he&#8217;d come to normalize me doing drag in his own mind.  He equated it to me doing theater in middle and high school;  the only difference was that now I was dressing up as a woman.  Seeing me perform in San Francisco, while uncomfortable, had illustrated to him the love and support that my community had for me and this area of \u200b\u200bmy life, and it brought to light the fun, playful nature of drag that so many people are drawn to in clubs around the world and on television. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>As I put him into makeup in my childhood bedroom on Easter Sunday, I watched as he came to experience this joy for himself.  We laughed, he told jokes and tried on different accents to go with his drag character di lui.  (He chose the name &#8220;Daddy Lou Merle,&#8221; a play on a name I&#8217;d given him, &#8220;Daddy Lou Pearl,&#8221; and &#8220;Merle,&#8221; the name of my great aunt who&#8217;d been quite the character in her older age , known for gambling, eating jawbreakers and her 1971 induction into the South Dakota Softball Hall of Fame.) At one point, he said the makeup made him feel like he was in the opera and began singing from &#8220;The Marriage of Figaro.&#8221;  As we say in the drag world, he was <em>feeling the fantasy<\/em>. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<figure class=\"cli cli-image js-no-inject\">\n<div class=\"img-sized\"><picture><source type=\"image\/webp\" srcset=\"https:\/\/img.huffingtonpost.com\/asset\/62962e081e00000afd1b5eca.png?ops=scalefit_720_noupscale&amp;format=webp\"\/><img class=\"img-sized__img portrait\" loading=\"lazy\" alt=\"The author and Bobby mid-makeup transformation in Blake's childhood bedroom in Douglasville, Georgia.\" width=\"720\" height=\"967\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/img.huffingtonpost.com\/asset\/62962e081e00000afd1b5eca.png?resize=720%2C967&#038;ssl=1\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/picture><\/div>\n<div class=\"cli-image__source-wrapper\"><figcaption class=\"cli-image__caption caption-cli\">The author and Bobby mid-makeup transformation in Blake&#8217;s childhood bedroom in Douglasville, Georgia.<\/figcaption><div class=\"cli-image__credit\" aria-label=\"Image Credit: Courtesy of Blake Mitchell\">\n<p><span class=\"credit\">Courtesy of Blake Mitchell<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/figure>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>When the final moment of truth came and dad turned the mirror around to see himself, he erupted into excitement.  His already Southern accent thickened, and he exclaimed, \u201cOh, my word &#8211; she is a Southern belle!  Oh, my <em>gawd.<\/em>&#8220;Then, in my favorite moment of the day, he turned to my mom, who was sitting on the bed, and said,&#8221; Hi, doll! &#8220;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>It felt as if he was channeling bits of my grandmother, my aunts and the women I grew up meeting at church in his hometown of Columbus, Mississippi.  Much like me, he drew from the larger-than-life Southern women (with larger-than-life hair) that he grew up around. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>My emotions were mixed as he went through this transformation.  Sure, I was happy he was enjoying it and that the experience was positive, but where had this excitement been before?  Why had I dealt with so many disparaging comments and fielded so many antagonizing questions for us to wind up here?  Why had his attitude changed seemingly so quickly about him?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>As we sat at the kitchen table after he&#8217;d wiped off all the makeup, I asked again, &#8220;Dad, why did you really want me to put you into makeup?&#8221;  He shared that as time went on, and he saw how much drag meant to me, he wanted to understand it better.  He knew that it was something beyond the reach of his comfort level of him, given his lived experience of him and where he grew up, but he wanted to try and meet me halfway. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<figure class=\"cli cli-image js-no-inject\">\n<div class=\"img-sized\"><picture><source type=\"image\/webp\" srcset=\"https:\/\/img.huffingtonpost.com\/asset\/62962ece260000ec5d8a9a90.png?ops=crop_0_37_806_920%2Cscalefit_720_noupscale&amp;format=webp\"\/><img class=\"img-sized__img portrait\" loading=\"lazy\" alt=\"The author with their father and new drag sister &quot;Daddy Lou Merle,&quot; post-makeup transformation in Douglasville, Georgia.\" width=\"720\" height=\"821\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/img.huffingtonpost.com\/asset\/62962ece260000ec5d8a9a90.png?resize=720%2C821&#038;ssl=1\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/picture><\/div>\n<div class=\"cli-image__source-wrapper\"><figcaption class=\"cli-image__caption caption-cli\">The author with their father and new drag sister &#8220;Daddy Lou Merle,&#8221; post-makeup transformation in Douglasville, Georgia.<\/figcaption><div class=\"cli-image__credit\" aria-label=\"Image Credit: Courtesy of Blake Mitchell\">\n<p><span class=\"credit\">Courtesy of Blake Mitchell<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/figure>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As queer people, we talk a lot about wanting for our families and community to accept us.  Acceptance lives in the space beyond tolerance, which is defined as &#8220;allowing the existence, occurrence, or practice of (something that one does not necessarily like or agree with) without interference.&#8221;  Acceptance goes a step further and involves the &#8220;act of receiving someone and admitting them into your group.&#8221;  Tolerance says &#8220;you can sit here, even if it makes me uncomfortable,&#8221; while acceptance says, &#8220;I&#8217;d love for you to sit with us, you&#8217;re welcome here.&#8221; <\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If we take this thought process even further, we arrive at the concept of embracing, which is defined as &#8220;holding someone in your arms&#8221; or to &#8220;accept or support willingly and enthusiastically.&#8221;  My dad asking me to put him into drag was him taking that extra step into embracing me, meeting me where I was and demonstrating through his actions di lui his love and support di lui for me.  This is especially meaningful, given his level of discomfort di lui around drag just a short time before. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As queer people, we&#8217;re often expected to explain and defend our identities.  While the effort and emotional labor can definitely be productive and lead to change, it&#8217;s also taxing and can feel overwhelming.  When allies choose to go on this journey of growth and self actualization with us &#8211; and are willing to get uncomfortable and challenge themselves &#8211; it eases things for us and makes bigger change possible.  I&#8217;m so grateful that my dad made that choice. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And best of all?  Now I have a fabulous new drag sister.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p><em>Blake Mitchell is a corporate diversity and inclusion professional, drag performer and activist living in San Francisco, California.  Originally from Atlanta, Georgia, Blake channels their Southern upbringing into creating their drag persona, Mary Lou Pearl.  Blake is an avid supporter of causes surrounding LGBTQ + advocacy and racial justice including the AIDS \/ LifeCycle, Brave Trails LGBTQ + Summer Camp and Showing Up for Racial Justice.  Blake identifies as non-binary and genderqueer and uses they \/ them pronouns. <\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p><em>Do you have a compelling personal story you&#8217;d like to see published on HuffPost?  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