{"id":69694,"date":"2022-09-08T10:05:03","date_gmt":"2022-09-08T10:05:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/jennette-mccurdy-talks-last-conversation-with-mother\/"},"modified":"2022-09-08T10:05:03","modified_gmt":"2022-09-08T10:05:03","slug":"jennette-mccurdy-talks-last-conversation-with-mother","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/jennette-mccurdy-talks-last-conversation-with-mother\/","title":{"rendered":"Jennette McCurdy talks last conversation with mother"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<aside class=\"gnt_em gnt_em__fp gnt_em_vp__tp gnt_em__el\" aria-label=\"Video - ShowBiz Minute: Bieber, Michele, Prince Harry\"\/>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">Jennette McCurdy isn&#8217;t done spilling her guts.<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">The former Nickelodeon actress, who released her debut memoir &#8220;I&#8217;m Glad My Mom Died&#8221; in August, appeared on the season premiere of \u201cRed Table Talk\u201d on Facebook Watch Wednesday to share more details about her turbulent upbringing with her mother Debbie McCurdy , who McCurdy alleges abused her as a child in the book.<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">McCurdy opened up about a verbally abusive email her mother allegedly sent her after discovering McCurdy was in a romantic relationship.<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">The \u201ciCarly\u201d star also got candid about the last conversation she had with her mother before she died of breast cancer in 2013 and the lingering impact their eating disorders had on their relationship.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"gnt_em gnt_em_fb gnt_em_fb__vp\" data-g-r=\"lazy\" data-gl-method=\"loadFacebook\" data-v-src=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/redtabletalk\/videos\/3261305984112390\/\" aria-label=\"Facebook Embedded Video\" style=\"height:70px;padding:0 0 56.25%\"><\/aside>\n<h2 class=\"gnt_ar_b_mt\">Jennette McCurdy says mother called her a &#8216;slut&#8217; in &#8216;scathing&#8217; email<\/h2>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">McCurdy recounted a series of \u201cscathing\u201d emails she received from her mother after running \u201caway to Hawaii with (her) boyfriend\u201d in August 2012.<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">\u201cThere were some paparazzi pictures that somebody had taken of us, and then my mom found those paparazzi pictures,\u201d McCurdy explained.  \u201cThe relationship had been a secret from her.  I understand why she was disapproving.  There was a significant age difference, but I don&#8217;t respect how she handled it.\u201d<\/p>\n<aside aria-label=\"advertisement\" class=\"gnt_m gnt_x gnt_x__lbl gnt_x__al\"\/>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">The 30-year-old author then read one of these \u201cdisapproving\u201d emails to hosts Jada Pinkett Smith, Willow Smith and Adrienne Banfield-Norris.<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">\u201c&#8217;Dear (Jennette), I am so disappointed in you.  You used to be my perfect little angel, but now you are nothing more than a little \u2013all caps\u2013 slut, a floozy, all used up.  And to think you wasted it on that hideous ogre of a man,&#8217; \u201d McCurdy read.  \u201cAdd that to the list of things you are: liar, conniving, evil.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">She continued: \u201c&#8217;I raised you better than this.  What happened to my good little girl?  Where did she go, and who is this monster that has replaced her?  \u2026 I told your brothers about you, and they all said they disown you just like I do.  We want nothing to do with you.&#8217;  \u201d<\/p>\n<figure class=\"gnt_em gnt_em_img\"><\/figure>\n<h2 class=\"gnt_ar_b_mt\">Jennette McCurdy&#8217;s relationship with mother was colored by &#8216;narcissistic abuse&#8217;<\/h2>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">McCurdy&#8217;s relationship with her mother was complex, she previously told USA TODAY.  Sometimes, she craved her approval and validation \u2013 so much so that people-pleasing became instinctual, and she inadvertently gave up control over her diaries, schedules, relationships, finances and even body during shower checkups.<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">After going to therapy, McCurdy said she learned to reframe her life and accept the unfortunate truth that her mother&#8217;s actions weren&#8217;t love: they were exploitation and &#8220;narcissistic abuse.&#8221;<\/p>\n<aside aria-label=\"advertisement\" class=\"gnt_m gnt_x gnt_x__lbl gnt_x__al\"\/>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">&#8220;I felt pressure to find forgiveness and to justify her behavior\u2026but ultimately, what I realized is that there are a lot of people who have mental health issues who take full accountability and who really work on themselves and spend so much time and energy trying to improve their lives and the connections with others,&#8221; McCurdy said.<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\"><strong class=\"gnt_ar_b_al\">&#8216;I&#8217;m Glad My Mom Died&#8217;:<\/strong>How Jennette McCurdy escaped her narcissistic mother&#8217;s &#8216;excruciating&#8217; abuse<\/p>\n<aside class=\"gnt_em gnt_em_anc\" id=\"gnt_atomsnc\" data-g-r=\"lazy\" data-gl-method=\"loadAnc\" aria-label=\"Newsletter signup form\"\/>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\"><strong class=\"gnt_ar_b_al\">From TGIF to NSFW:<\/strong>&#8216;Boy Meets World&#8217; star Maitland Ward talks breaking free from Hollywood for porn<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"gnt_ar_b_mt\">Jennette McCurdy recalls final conversation with mother, talks having children<\/h2>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">During her appearance on \u201cRed Table Talk,\u201d McCurdy discussed her final conversation with her mother, which she described as \u201csort of a non-conversation.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">\u201cHer cancer had spread to her brain.  She was in a hospice bed that was set up in our living room, and she was really just detached behind the eyes,\u201d McCurdy recalled.  \u201cThis thing happens when people are on their deathbed, or this was at least my experience, where everybody tries to say something to the person who&#8217;s dying, like it&#8217;s an attempt to get them to wake up.<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">\u201cMy brothers had each given their good news of their lives.  One of them was getting married;  one of them was moving back to California.  And then I said, &#8216;Mommy, I&#8217;m so skinny right now.&#8217;  The thing that I felt like was the most that I had to offer was my thinness.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">In \u201cI&#8217;m Glad My Mom Died,\u201d McCurdy shares that her mother taught her about \u201ccalorie restriction\u201d as a child, which eventually morphed into anorexia and then spiraled into binge-eating and bulimia.  Part of it was an effort by McCurdy to maintain her already-petite stature.  But mostly, it was a desperate attempt to bond with and impress her mother, who she said also exhibited disordered eating.<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">\u201cAnd I really, really, in my core at that time, I believed that that would get my mother to wake up,\u201d said McCurdy, who told her she weighed &#8220;89 pounds&#8221; at the time. more about my body and my weight than she did about anything else that could possibly be uttered by my brothers&#8217; mouths.\u201d <\/p>\n<aside aria-label=\"advertisement\" class=\"gnt_m gnt_x gnt_x__lbl gnt_x__al\"\/>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">On becoming a mother herself someday, McCurdy said while she&#8217;s \u201copen\u201d to the possibility of having children, she&#8217;s in no hurry to start a family of her own.<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\">\u201cI would never want to have a child for my own identity.  That&#8217;s a very, very concrete one for me,\u201d McCurdy said.  \u201cI&#8217;m in a place where I don&#8217;t feel like I want kids.  I have two nieces that I adore and a third on the way.  I&#8217;m really happy to be an aunt.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\"><em>If you or someone you know is struggling with body image or eating concerns, the National Eating Disorders Association&#8217;s toll-free and confidential help line is available by phone or text at 1-800-931-2237 or by click-to-chat message at nationaleatingdisorders.org\/helpline.  For 24\/7 crisis situations, text &#8220;NEDA&#8221; to 741-741.<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\"><strong class=\"gnt_ar_b_al\">5 must-read books this week:<\/strong>New Stephen King novel, sex-positive &#8216;Rated X&#8217; memoir<\/p>\n<p class=\"gnt_ar_b_p\"><em>Contributing: Jenna Ryu, USA TODAY<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"gnt_em_gl_i\" data-g-r=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.gannett-cdn.com\/presto\/2022\/07\/14\/USAT\/ded55de0-97e9-45fa-ac0b-e6343a07d043-Im_Glad_My_Mom_Died_Cover.jpg?resize=660%2C372&#038;ssl=1\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.gannett-cdn.com\/presto\/2022\/07\/14\/USAT\/ded55de0-97e9-45fa-ac0b-e6343a07d043-Im_Glad_My_Mom_Died_Cover.jpg?crop=1827,1028,x0,y965&amp;width=1320&amp;height=744&amp;format=pjpg&amp;auto=webp 2x\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" width=\"660\" height=\"372\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Jennette McCurdy isn&#8217;t done spilling her guts. The former Nickelodeon actress, who released her debut memoir &#8220;I&#8217;m Glad My Mom Died&#8221; in August, appeared on the season premiere of \u201cRed Table Talk\u201d on Facebook Watch Wednesday to share more details about her turbulent upbringing with her mother Debbie McCurdy , who McCurdy alleges abused her &hellip;<\/p>\n<p class=\"read-more\"> <a class=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/jennette-mccurdy-talks-last-conversation-with-mother\/\"> <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Jennette McCurdy talks last conversation with mother<\/span> Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false,"jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":45137,"url":"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/josh-peck-shares-support-for-jennette-mccurdy-she-is-incredibly-brave\/","url_meta":{"origin":69694,"position":0},"title":"Josh Peck Shares Support For Jennette McCurdy: &#8220;She Is Incredibly Brave&#8221;","date":"August 14, 2022","format":false,"excerpt":"Josh Peck voiced his support for Jennette McCurdy after the release of her new memoir, \u201cI'm Glad My Mom Died.\u201d Former Nickelodeon star Josh Peck shared his support for Jennette McCurdy following the release of her new memoir, I'm Glad My Mom Died, in which she reflects on the abuse\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Entertainment&quot;","img":{"alt_text":"Jenette McCurdy","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/ssl.ulximg.com\/public\/userfiles\/2022\/08\/14\/GettyImages-463428816.jpg?resize=350%2C200&ssl=1","width":350,"height":200},"classes":[]},{"id":42052,"url":"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/jennette-mccurdy-says-writing-im-glad-my-mom-died-memoir-made-her-miss-her-mother\/","url_meta":{"origin":69694,"position":1},"title":"Jennette McCurdy Says Writing &#8216;I&#8217;m Glad My Mom Died&#8217; Memoir Made Her Miss Her Mother","date":"August 11, 2022","format":false,"excerpt":"Actor Jennette McCurdy revealed how writing her new memoir, \u201cI'm Glad My Mom Died,\u201d allowed her to deal with her uncomfortable feelings of grief.The \u201ciCarly\u201d star spoke to \u201cGood Morning America\u201d on Wednesday about how she felt a lot of contrasting emotions after her mother, Debra, who McCurdy has publicly\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Entertainment&quot;","img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":35806,"url":"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/jennette-mccurdy-says-she-was-photographed-in-bikini-given-alcohol-as-a-child-actor\/","url_meta":{"origin":69694,"position":2},"title":"Jennette McCurdy Says She Was Photographed In Bikini, Given Alcohol As A Child Actor","date":"August 5, 2022","format":false,"excerpt":"Jennette McCurdy, best known for her role in \u201ciCarly,\u201d is revealing new abuses she was forced to endure as a child actor.In a New York Times profile published Wednesday promoting her new memoir, \u201cI'm Glad My Mom Died,\u201d the outlet reports that McCurdy writes in her book that she was\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Entertainment&quot;","img":{"alt_text":"McCurdy and Ariana Grande attend the UK premiere of \u00e2\u0080\u009cSam & Cat\u00e2\u0080\u009d in 2013.","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/img.huffingtonpost.com\/asset\/62ec43f71e00002d004957ef.jpeg?resize=350%2C200&ssl=1","width":350,"height":200},"classes":[]},{"id":37781,"url":"https:\/\/harchi90.com\/jennette-mccurdy-says-nickelodeon-offered-her-hush-money\/","url_meta":{"origin":69694,"position":3},"title":"Jennette McCurdy says Nickelodeon offered her &#8216;hush money&#8217;","date":"August 7, 2022","format":false,"excerpt":"Former iCarly star Jennette McCurdy makes several startling against Nickelodeon in her new book, I'm Glad My Mom Died. 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